Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Tuesday Tunes

I'm late to the party on this one.  But so glad I made it.  I will freely admit that I was unaware of The National for too long.  I remember reading about them on Dooce a while back.  In particular her love for lead singer Matt Berninger.  But I didn't really listen. She even wrote about them more than once for my benefit, and what did I do, I ignored her.  Here. Here. And here.  I guess I'm kind of bad at following blog recommendations.  Which is ridiculous in the case, because I've pretty much LOVED every other band/musician Dooce has posted about.  I think I was just been really busy those three days.  I guess.  

Anyway, I got my act together after catching their Tiny Desk Concert and I fell in love.  So now it's my turn to blog about them and hope that some of my readers ignore me and then find The National too.   Enjoy!





This Is The Last Time - The National

Oh, when I lift you up
You feel like a hundred times yourself
I wish everybody knew
What's so great about you

Oh, but your love is such a swamp
You don't think before you jump
And I said I wouldn't get sucked in
I...

This is the last time

Oh, don't tell anyone I'm here
I got Tylenol and beer
I was thinking that you'd call somebody
Closer to you

Oh, but your love is such a swamp
You're the only thing I want
And I said I wouldn't cry about it
I...

This is the last time
This is the last time

We were so under the brine
We were so vacant and kind
We were so under the brine
We were so vacant

We were so under the brine
We were so out of our minds
We were so under the brine
We were so vacant

Oh, when I lift you up
You feel like a hundred times yourself
I wish everybody knew
What's so great about you

Oh, but your love is such a swamp
You don't think before you jump
And I said I wouldn't get sucked in
I...

I won't be vacant anymore
I won't be waitin' anymore
I won't be vacant anymore
I won't be waitin' anymore
I won't be vacant anymore
I won't be waitin' anymore
I won't be vacant anymore
I won't be waitin' anymore

Jenny, I am in trouble
Can't get these thoughts out of me
Jenny, I'm seeing double
I know this changes everything

Jenny, I am in trouble
Can't get these thoughts out of me
Jenny, I'm seeing double
I know this changes everything 

It takes a lot of pain to pick me up
It takes a lot of rain in the cup
Baby you gave me bad ideas
Baby you left me sad and high

Thursday, November 7, 2013

NaNoWriMo Write MORE

It's November, which means three things to me:

1) Movember, when men stop shaving to raise money for Cancer research. Excellent cause, even better pics in my Facebook feed.  Thank you to my friends who sport the stache this month!

2) Thanksgiving.  When we get to make all the holiday food we like, spend a day in our house relaxing, and are not required to watch any sporting events.

3) NaNoWriMo.  My friend T told me about this last year and this year I intended to try it.  I still intend to try it, I shouldn't write in the past tense.  I should be present and positive and reaffirm my intention to make this happen.  But honesty kicks in, and I have to admit I've written about 300 words and it's November 7th. I do not like Math, and I do not like this math in particular.

I've struggled with writing most of my life.  Struggled with it in the fact that I've loved it, craved it, wanted to excel at it, and yet have always felt that I've fallen short.  I chose the college I went to because it had a strong Liberal Arts core and offered a Creative Writing major.  I didn't expect to graduate with a degree in writing that would guarantee my success as a novelist, but the idea that I could make a living at something I love pulled at me.

It still does years later.  I love to read, and I love to discuss what I read.  I'm really thankful that Tim and I have similar reading tastes and that we can get hooked on the same books and pick them apart together. Each of us reflecting on different aspects of the same story.  It might be what I love most about writing/reading - that twenty people can read the same story and have a unique take away, and that each of those interpretations is not what the author intended.

Writing has not always been that easy.  I adore it.  I realize now that it's one of my passions and something that I want to dedicate more time and energy too.  The trick is, how to do that and be cultivate that passion? I know for me, being self aware of the fact that "I am writing!"  "I am speaking!" can get in my way.  I can start wondering how people will read my words, how some may think my writing is awful, some may find it boring, rambly, etc.  I have to accept that.  Everyone has different tastes, and someone's choice in style isn't a reflection on my abilities.  I have to remove myself from the story.  I have to re-frame how I think about writing and not see it as, "Leila wrote this, and thinks this," but see myself as the translator of someone else's story.

If I hadn't dropped out of college I might not wrestle with writing in the way I do now, because I'd have more practice and more confidence in my abilities. I'm sure I'd also have learned a few tricks about how to get around these stumbling blocks, because I imagine they are quite common.  But, I'm also sure I'd still find myself struggling at times, just in different ways.  So this month, I sit here attempting to simply write.  To remove the self editing and just get the words down.  There is always time for revision, for second guessing a name or setting, but just writing for the sake of writing?  That needs to be done. Which is why I came here. In an attempt to kindle that fire within that tells me to write, to share my stories I'm starting here, with where I am in this moment.  I'm hoping it will be an exercise in focusing, that it will give me the push I need to go into that fiction world a bit more, and translate a story from another world into mine.

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Tuesday Tunes (Belated, clearly)

Encouraging, uplifting song anyone?  What if I tell you it comes with flash mob dancing, minus the mob? There's a name for that I'm sure, but I don't know what it is and I don't have the time to Google.  It's a busy life I lead.  





Sarah Bareilles - Brave

You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
And they settle ‘neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

Everybody’s been there, everybody’s been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

Innocence, your history of silence
Won’t do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you

Friday, September 20, 2013

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Tuesday Tunes

New Arcade Fire!  New Arcade Fire!  New Arcade Fire!


Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Tuesday Tunes

Fun stuff!!!!  This song and its video are just straight up fun.  Guaranteed to become an ear worm.  You're welcome!




My Number - Foals
You don’t have my number, we don’t need each other now
We don’t need the city, the creed or the culture now

'Cause I feel, I feel alive, I feel, I feel alive
I feel the streets are all pulling me down

So people of the city I don’t need your counsel now
And I don’t need your good advice, you don’t have my lover’s touch

You don’t have my number, we don’t need each other now
The creed or the culture, we can move beyond it now

Now the wolf is knocking at my door, bang-banging, ask for more
Stand here, we stand tall, we could move beyond these walls

I don’t need your counsel, I don't need these city streets
I don’t need that good advice 'cause we can move beyond it now

You don’t have my number, we don’t need each other now
The creed or the culture, you don’t have my lover’s touch

'Cause I feel, I feel alive, I feel, I feel alive
I feel the streets are all far from there

Do you even hear me? Do you even know my name?
Can you see the ocean now? You don’t have my lover’s touch
You don’t have my number, you don’t have my number
People, can you hear me? Are you even listening now?

'Cause you don’t have my number, we don’t need each other now
You can't steal my thunder 'cause you don’t have my lover’s touch
You don’t have my number and I don’t need no one else
And I don’t need these city streets, the creed or the culture now

Monday, September 9, 2013

Famous Last Words

We've taken to visiting our local Humane Society fairly often.  Ben asked to go a few weekends ago and so we did.  Not a bad way to spend a few hours on a Saturday, meeting some nice cats and dogs who are looking for new homes.  We always go knowing we are not adopting anything, especially not a cat because of Nate's allergies.  It's also highly unlikely we'll adopt a dog either, unless they happen to have a Schnauzer who is need of a new home - that's a game-changer.

*SIDE STEP - The following is random, but relevant.  Patience please! This summer, Sydney discovered the Pigeon series by Mo Willems. If you are parent to a child over the age of three and have not read these books yet, get your butt to the library NOW.  Stop reading my nonsense ramblings and go.  So, as I was saying, Syda is in love with them, she borrows at least three every time we go to the library and she asks to read them constantly.*

Naturally, on our way to the humane society, the kids were talking about what animals they'd see.  Ben visits their website often and was speculating on whether or not Rocky would still be there or Trixie.  Nate told us he only want to see the cats for a few minutes, but the dogs for longer.  It was a typical planning meeting. Then Syda asked the most logical question , "I can get a pigeon?"  We all smiled and I even laughed a little when I said, "No, sorry Syda.  There are no pigeons at the shelter."  Then we got there.

Look at his smug expression.  My three year old will never believe another word I say.

This dude made me a liar.  

I kid you not, he was waiting for us as we walked in.  With a big sign informing us that his name was Chico, he's a homing pigeon who has decided to make the humane society his new home.  Note the band on his leg - he's legit.  This is not some random pigeon that got lost on his way between the Target and Wal Mart parking lots.

Fortunately, he and Syda didn't strike up a bond that day.  But she was thoroughly excited that the animal she had asked for was delivered.  I've tried asking for a million dollars to be greeting us on the walkway when we visit the shelter. Hey, if Syda can get a pigeon, I can get my dream too! 

This Saturday we went for another visit, and Chico greeted us again.  And, what I feared most happened. He noticed Sydney. He liked Sydney.  He tried to bond with Sydney.  She was sitting out in the courtyard area playing in the grass and rocks, which happens to be right near where Chico likes to lie in the sun.  So, while she was out there waiting patiently for me to fill out some paperwork (more on that later) Chico kept inching closer and closer to her.  Sadly, I didn't manage to get a picture of them, but he got all of two feet away from her and I'll be damned if it wasn't some human/pigeon parallel play going on there.  One of the CVHS Employees even commented on it.  Chico clearly knows about the pigeon books and he knows that Syda doesn't side with the bus driver.  She's Team Pigeon.  She would totally let him drive the bus, eat a hot dog, get a puppy, and stay up late.  Which is exactly why Chico will not be living in our backyard anytime soon.  Unless she gave him our address.....crap.



*If you are local and looking for a new pet, please visit CVHS.  If you can't adopt there are plenty of other ways to help, volunteer, donate, spread the word.  






Saturday, September 7, 2013

Birthday Love


video
How the kids chose to wish Tim a Happy Birthday this year!

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes


The boys started school this week.  Today is only Day Two - we're still very new to all of this and so I'm reserving full judgement for a bit. But I AM hopeful and I am encouraged by what the past two days have brought to us.  The boys are connecting with other kids, they are learning the rhythm of the day, and they are having fun while building a positive association with school, other adults, and new experiences without our help.

I'm not sure exactly how to address the elephant in the room - homeschooling, except to say that we still believe in homeschooling and we may return to it.  We didn't enter this thinking we were switching teams. the best way I can think to explain it is to say that we don't root for the Public Schoolers and boo the Homeschoolers now, we're just trying a new sport.  A season of Soccer instead of Baseball.  We've always tried to do whatever worked best for our family at the present moment. Whether it was homeschooling or schooling, screens, no-screens, two WOH parents, one SAH parent, etc. There is not one, certain approach to parenting, or to life for that matter, that is going to work for every family.  If there was, we'd all be using that one method because it works so well.  There would be no "mommy wars", no debates about the merits of different parenting books or philosophies, no defensiveness about our choices when it comes to our children.  I don't feel defensive about putting my kids in school after homeschooling them for their entire "school careers" thus far, but I do feel a sense of uncertainty because it is new.  I also felt this when we pulled Ben from Headstart and decided to homeschool.  I don't feel relieved that they are going to school, or that I have found a magic solution for the issues we were having with homeschooling.  It all falls on a spectrum, and for us right now our local public school may be the best untapped resource to help us help our kids succeed.  

We made the decision to send the boys to school last week - a week before school started.  We (we = our family, not just Tim and I) had been talking it over for most of the summer.  We weren't hating homeschooling, but we weren't loving it as we once had either, it had somehow just stopped working well for us.  ALL of us.  There are so many variables in this equation, it's hard to know which one or which combination of factors were involved with our decision, but the short version of why we decided to try school this year is that the kids needed/wanted more interaction with friends, more challenging work, and more experiences and our budget, and schedule couldn't facilitate that as well as the kids deserved. ALL of this is possible to fix via homeschooling or public schooling. Again, it comes back to what is right for you family at this point in time.  

So we decided to tap into our local resource, the school.  Our idea was just to sign the boys up for specials, where they would go to school for about an hour each day to join in gym, art, music etc.  They would do their academic work at home with us as they always had.  Somewhere in the last few weeks, that idea morphed into full time school and was met with a strong interest from the boys.  Last week, we took a tour of the school, met some teachers and the principal and then talked it over with the boys.  They were unanimous - they wanted to go.

Tim & I have always said that if any of the kids ever expressed an interest in going to school we would let them.  We've tried hard to not make school out to be the "bad guy" that it can often appear to be to homeschoolers.  We haven't always succeeded in that, and we do still see the downfalls possible with public school.  But, at the moment, the positives of school are outweighing the negatives for our family. When the scale shifts, as I suspect it will at some point, we'll revisit homeschooling, or look into private school, or online schooling, because our needs change throughout our lives and the solutions keep evolving too.  The one thought I keep focusing on as we go forward parenting our kids, and living life, is how fortunate we are to live in a time and place that affords us such choices.  It is a luxury that should be blessed upon everyone.

*Syda is not going to school this year, but man, it was not fun being the one to break that news.  She might be getting a mini schoolhouse for her birthday in a few weeks.  Oh, and a pony.







Friday, August 16, 2013

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Friday, August 9, 2013

This Moment

Another attempt at a restart.  The other day Ben asked me why I stopped doing "those Friday picture posts".  I didn't intentionally stop posting them, like most things with maintaining a blog for my own enjoyment and not for monetary gain, I just got lazy, distracted, forgetful.  It's easy to forget about maintaining this virtual corner of the world while enjoying our "bricks & mortar" corner.  That said, I did love doing these posts.  They are fun, easy, and an instant snapshot into our life during this week.  So, here we go again! (I hope!)  BIG thanks to Soulemama for creating this wonderful prompt and encouraging all of her readers to do the same!


         A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special,                               extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. 


   If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your 'moment' in the comments for all to find and see.




Wednesday, July 31, 2013

The Red Badge of Courage

A friend of mine shared this and I have to pass along the favor.  A warning here, it is about what it says - PERIODS.  The only offensive thing here is the use of a Dora the Explorer doll as a prop by a twelve year old. Because really, if this is sleep away camp and the girls are twelve, who the hell invited Dora?


*And YES, this is real thing.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Tuesday Tunes - Summer Session Part 2

This week's series showcases the magic that is Prescott Park.  Last week, in sweltering heat, there was an incredible turn out for Carolina Chocolate Drops, a relatively new band.  Tomorrow, in spite of a rainy forecast, I'm sure there will be an enormous turnout for these two well known musicians.  Make it down if you can!


Mary Chapin Carpenter - Why Shouldn't We



Mark Cohn - The Things We'e Handed Down

Monday, July 22, 2013

Hopping Right Along

Just a photo-heavy post here to chronicle our summer.  We've been spending most of it in our backyard but we're planning to hit the beaches soon.  In the meantime, we've been making the most of the woods behind us, the tent in the backyard, the fire pit and of course, the hose.  Summer in Maine is pretty perfect. Even during the heat waves with record humidity. 















Thursday, July 18, 2013

On The Stand

This is a confessional blog post.  I'm making myself accountable via the Internet. The confession?  I have a slight addiction to library books.  The library is an incredible free resource, but it's not when you keep racking up late fees because you take out more books than you can read.

I often make a list of books I'd like to read during the week, and then on my weekly solo Saturday excursion I get what is on my list.  Our library is small, but full of excellent titles, DVDs, magazines and lots of the newest titles.  The other thing they do - they display.  They display well!  Which is how they get me.  I can't resist the bookshelf that so casually flaunts all the new fiction and non-fiction. There are books here that aren't on my list, but should be!  I feel compelled to bring them with me, as if leaving them on the shelf is condemning them.  As though they will never have their "Date Due" slip stamped and will be mocked by the other books as unreadable.  No,I will not allow that to happen on my library trip.

Thing is, they don't end up getting fully read at my house.  They wind up in a pile on my nightstand and I open each one and read some of each one, but I don't always end up finishing them.  So, my new resolution is this.  I'm allowing myself to borrow one fiction and one non-fiction book at a time. My hope is that I will manage to finish both books in a reasonable amount of time.  This new plan kicks into action this weekend, so today I thought I'd share the view on my nightstand now.  Which doesn't look like too much at first, but when I list it out, it feels like a lot, and I've been dedicating at least an hour to reading every day this week and I'm still only halfway through the most engrossing read.  Time management, you are my nemesis!

This is a small stack for me.



Kindle Books*


At twenty-two, Cheryl Strayed thought she had lost everything. In the wake of her mother’s death, her family scattered and her own marriage was soon destroyed. Four years later, with nothing more to lose, she made the most impulsive decision of her life. With no experience or training, driven only by blind will, she would hike more than a thousand miles of the Pacific Crest Trail from the Mojave Desert through California and Oregon to Washington State—and she would do it alone. Told with suspense and style, sparkling with warmth and humor, Wild powerfully captures the terrors and pleasures of one young woman forging ahead against all odds on a journey that maddened, strengthened, and ultimately healed her.




I cannot stop reading this!  I've actually put down everything else in order to finish this before my loan expires.  It's not the best read, it's a basic account of her search for herself after her mother's death and the end of her marriage change her identity. It's full of some self-congratulating and self-loathing that can get repetitive.  But the overall story is captivating and the sheer fact that Cheryl was willing to take off into the wilderness on her own, without much (any) training and little preparation adds an element of suspense that is often hard to find in a memoir.





Nine-year-old Oskar Schell has embarked on an urgent, secret mission that will take him through the five boroughs of New York. His goal is to find the lock that matches a mysterious key that belonged to his father, who died in the World Trade Center on the morning of September 11. This seemingly impossible task will bring Oskar into contact with survivors of all sorts on an exhilarating, affecting, often hilarious, and ultimately healing journey.


This book pulled me in from the first page.  The narrator's voice, Oskar, is incredibly engrossing. There are chapters told from other points of view which are enjoyable, but when I turn the page and hear Oskar's voice again, I'm reassured and happy to be reunited with him for the next leg in the journey.  




Hardcover Books On The Stand


“Long live the King” hailed Entertainment Weekly upon publication of Stephen King’s On Writing. Part memoir, part master class by one of the bestselling authors of all time, this superb volume is a revealing and practical view of the writer’s craft, comprising the basic tools of the trade every writer must have. King’s advice is grounded in his vivid memories from childhood through his emergence as a writer, from his struggling early career to his widely reported, near-fatal accident in 1999—and how the inextricable link between writing and living spurred his recovery. Brilliantly structured, friendly and inspiring, On Writing will empower and entertain everyone who reads it—fans, writers, and anyone who loves a great story well told.


I've borrowed this book for the obvious purpose of learning to become a better writer.  The best thing about this book is how King talks to the reader like an everyday person. Because really he is too, he just happens to have found his passion and honed his craft over years of practice.  He talks about his journey to success and his journey to find his voice as a writer.  I think it's clear from a young age that he was destined to share stories with the world, but the way he learns to make that a reality and his willingness to share that with us make this a read worth anyone's time.  Writer or not.






Marriage can be a real killer. 
      On a warm summer morning in North Carthage, Missouri, it is Nick and Amy Dunne’s fifth wedding anniversary. Presents are being wrapped and reservations are being made when Nick’s clever and beautiful wife disappears from their rented McMansion on the Mississippi River. Husband-of-the-Year Nick isn’t doing himself any favors with cringe-worthy daydreams about the slope and shape of his wife’s head, but passages from Amy's diary reveal the alpha-girl perfectionist could have put anyone dangerously on edge. Under mounting pressure from the police and the media—as well as Amy’s fiercely doting parents—the town golden boy parades an endless series of lies, deceits, and inappropriate behavior. Nick is oddly evasive, and he’s definitely bitter—but is he really a killer? 
   As the cops close in, every couple in town is soon wondering how well they know the one that they love. With his twin sister, Margo, at his side, Nick stands by his innocence. Trouble is, if Nick didn’t do it, where is that beautiful wife? And what was in that silvery gift box hidden in the back of her bedroom closet?
   With her razor-sharp writing and trademark psychological insight, Gillian Flynn delivers a fast-paced, devilishly dark, and ingeniously plotted thriller that confirms her status as one of the hottest writers around.


I'm feeling very conflicted about this book. I feel like I'm on a roller coaster, but not in the fun, zig zag way but the part where I'm going up the long hill and can hear the clink-clink-clink of the chain hauling the cart up, but I can't see the drop yet and I'm starting to wonder if it's there.  Most of the reviews I've heard from friends and other library patrons have been mixed.  I'm about 200 pages in now and still can't decide if I should see it through to the end.  The premise is very intriguing and I love a good mystery as long as it's not too creepy or filled with gore and this book meets both of my requirements.  However, it's just slow. There's no nice way to say it...it's just plodding along.  I'm reserving judgement until I finish it, if I do.  I'm hopeful that I will though because there has to be a twist that makes me feel like racing down the hill with my arms above my head, screaming.  No pressure Gillian Flynn. 





Intention is generally viewed as a pit-bull kind of determination propelling one to succeed at all costs by never giving up on an inner picture. In this view, an attitude that combines hard work with an indefatigable drive toward excellence is the way to succeed. However, intention is viewed very differently in this book. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer has researched intention as a force in the universe that allows the act of creation to take place. This book explores intention—not as something you do—but as an energy you’re a part of. We’re all intended here through the invisible power of intention. This is the first book to look at intention as a field of energy that you can access to begin co-creating your life with the power of intention.
 

I'm not sure what to tell you about this.  I'm reading a lot of self-help books these days and this is the current one.  I read them with an open, yet cautious mind.  I don't rule things out arbitrarily but at the same time, there has to be some take away that I feel fits my life and connects with my goals.  So I plan to finish this one as well and see where I feel afterwards.  I think it's very easy to get swept up into the hopefulness that many self-help books offer in their first few chapters.  It's harder to actually get through all of the information and then put it into practice, so we'll see how this pans out.  This is basically like my assigned reading and it comes with homework.  In summer no less.






*All of the italicized summaries are thanks to Amazon.com. Without Amazon I wouldn't have discovered that the world of library books expands to the internet.  Ohh, my sweet, sweet Kindle.





















Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Tuesday Tunes - Summer Session Part 1

One of the best things about living where we do is our proximity to great music.  Each summer the Prescott Parks Arts Festival  presents a wonderful mix of new and familiar artists to the seacoast.  Every Wednesday night you can head down here, sit by the water, and see a great show for about $5. (Donations are appreciated but there isn't a set fee for the concerts)  *It's not always this crowded, but even when it is there is a large yard to the right of this scene and the left.  Don't be deceived by internet pictures.

While you're waiting for the show to start you can walk around the gardens, which are absolutely stunning.  You can also visit a number of cute retail shops within walking distance, and you can walk to some great eateries and bring your dinner back to the park.  It's a perfect way to spend a summer evening, especially in the middle of the week.

This week, Prescott Park welcomes the Carolina Chocolate Drops.  They debuted on Nonesuch records (Wilco connection = instant appeal in my book) in 2010 and were nominated for a Grammy last year. They have an old style sound that is completely original.  Which I realize may sound like an impossibility, but take a listen yourself.  It's a very beautiful blend of jazz and folk that will pull you in. I promise.  If you aren't sure, do yourself two favors; 1) Watch all three of the videos below.  2) If you're local, go to Prescott Park tomorrow night and see them live.  You're welcome!  (Also, the lead singer's name is Rhiannon.  Seriously. How much do I love that?  And, they get bonus points because their bassist is named Leyla.  Which I'm assuming is pronounced the same as mine, because it's an awesome name and it'd be foolish to say it any other way.)


Country Girl


Snowden's Jig


Hit 'Em Up Style

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Seated Meditation


A friend once told me that knitting was her form of meditation.  I found it an odd comment at the time because my lack of skill left me feeling frustrated and annoyed while knitting.  I threw knitting needles back into the bag with a hopeless sigh, I tore out countless rows when an error was discovered too late, and I misread patterns that left me lost in a sea of unfamiliar terms and abbreviations. After some, ok lots, of practice, I've learned how to knit in that fluid way that is at once both mindless and mindful of the present moment.  It really is a form of meditation and deep relaxation. I can knit in the dark, I can knit while having a conversation, I can knit without looking at my work and let my mind relax and wander.  I understand what my friend was saying.

There is a unique kind of joy that can only come from creating something beautiful with your own two hands. Whatever medium used to create doesn't matter, just the fact that you are creating is worthy of your time, energy, and love. I tried to learn how to knit many times before it finally stuck.  I'm not sure what it was that prevented me from grasping the concept initially but something finally clicked during my second pregnancy.  I found myself less frustrated as I held the needles and lined up the yarn, and more determined.  I just plodded along, slowly.  So, very slowly and over time  I understood how a series of loops became something beautiful.  I had found my craft of choice.

Fast forward some years, and I've gone from being a solitary knitter to having a community of my dearest friends who share in this craft and love it the way I do.  Some even more devoutly than I do.  We get together every couple of weeks, sometimes more often, sometimes less, as our families and life dictate.  But every time we gather to knit and visit, a sort of calm settles in the room and conversations just flow right along with the rhythm of the needles clinking.  It might just be the common nature of close friends who are together and can relax, it may not be thanks to the needles and yarn, but without them, we wouldn't have this regular date and without that, we wouldn't have this special niche of a community.


I haven't been able to go to knitting night for a while.  Mostly due to my anxiety (which I will devote more posts to later, to help give context to this and other entries).  This past Thursday I decided to give myself a push and try.  It wasn't easy.  I debated going the entire day, and even up until ten minutes before I left the house.  It had nothing to do with my friends, the location, or knitting at all.
It is solely a function of my neurosis at the moment and the inner argument that is constantly going on in my mind.  This near constant "pit in the stomach" feeling that seems to follow me everywhere.

I decided that I would drive to our lovely hostesses's house and if I felt too anxious I could always turn around and come home. I had a plan, which is a huge help for me and I felt confident about seeing this through.  Here's the thing with that plan when you live where we do though - "driving over" equals at least twenty minutes, sometimes up to forty.  When I've made that investment in gas, time, and left my kids, I feel more compelled to follow through.  I suppose this is a good thing in the long run, and maybe it'll even help me overcome aspects of my disorder, but it has a catch too.  It leaves me with another decision to make, and I do not handle decisions well these days.

I sat in my car at the end of the driveway for a good ten minutes before getting up the courage to walk in. And this is where the irony of anxiety comes in - I felt like I couldn't be there, like I shouldn't be there, that something bad was going to happen to me, that I was going to get sick or embarrass myself only because I was thinking it.  Once I walked in and got settled, I was fine.  I had about thirty minutes of awkwardness at first, and again it was all in my head.  Again.  I pushed past the nerves, I pushed past my inner fear and made myself stay. I'm so thankful I did.

The time passed too quickly.  I found myself looking at the clock in disbelief when it read 12:30.  How had it gotten so late?  I just got here!  I finished one project that had been looming in my knitting bag for over a month and I dug into a second with furry.  I laughed at my friend's jokes and stories.  I made jokes and people laughed at them.  I listened, I shared, I smiled, I felt safe, I had fun, and I remembered how lucky I am to be here.  To have these friends, to have this life, to enjoy it.  It's too easy to forget that when battling this inner voice that has been turned up to high lately.  These friends drowned out that voice for hours and helped me feel like myself for an evening. I'm lucky. I'm really lucky.




"The rhythmic repetitive movements of knitting are important - quite how, we're not absolutely certain of yet, but we have our theories. Anecdotal evidence strongly suggests that they induce a form of meditation very similar to Mindfulness. Recent research has shown that Mindfulness can be very effective in treating depression and chronic pain. It can also help those who are fit and healthy to combat stress and to manage life's downs. It helps you to put into perspective any traumatic issues that would normally dominate your waking thoughts helping you to find a stable balance between problematic events and feelings and more positive, pleasant sensations within the current moment. It's a state of mind where you're not mulling over the past or fretting about the future."  
 Courtesy of  Knitonthenet 













Wednesday, July 10, 2013

I'm So Vain, I Think This Blog Is About Me

I'm in a standoff.  On one side, my shoulder length hair that I've waited ages for. The other, my short hair that I've had for the majority of the last six years.  Two hairstyles will enter, one will leave.  Or win.  My hair will look different or stay the same. That line really didn't work did it?  Anyway, this is the fun decision I'm troubling myself with lately.  Should I cut my hair short again or not?

It comes down to a pros and cons list for each and I can't see a clear winner. So I've done the most logical thing and turned to the internet for help. That's where you, my readers, come in. I present the following for your consideration. I cannot figure out how to put a poll in here at the moment, so if you'd like to vote please leave a comment here or on FB. There are three categories:

1) Short
2) Long(ish)
3) Write About Something Else, This Is BORING!
(If you choose this option please leave a topic that you'd like me to write about. Like Feeding Three Ridiculously Hungry Children Multiple Times A Day, or  Internet Anonymity and Its Effect on our Social Construct, or How To Knit Something Awesome!)

Circa 2010 - My first true Pixie Cut                                               Tonight - Wavy Bob in bad lighting




 Long(ish) Hair

  • I've been growing it out since August of '11.  That's a long time in the universe of  "My Hair". I've had a few trims but haven't taken any major length off until last week when I chopped off an inch. That said, it was just down to my the very tops of my shoulders.  My hair grows very, very slowly.
  • The waves.  I have NO idea where these waves came from but I'm in love with them.  My hair is kind of fun now.  It doesn't just lay there, it's not limp and straight but has a little volume.
  • I've worked hard for this, did I mention that?  Read - I've resisted the temptation to cut for two years! I haven't really had to do any work but I've had to fight the urge to pick up the scissors.  It's a big temptation.
  • I can DO more with long hair.  The thing is, I don't really go anywhere or do anything that requires me to do stuff with my hair.  More to the point, I don't have the time or patience to do stuff to my hair.  I hate blow drying, it doesn't hold a curl with a curling iron, it's very fine so braids rarely stay in place.  I end up wearing it in a ponytail about 99% of the time.  The ponytail also causes a lot of damage to my hair.  Lots of broken hair, lots of damage that makes it look tired and unloved.



Short Hair


  • It's fun.  That's really all there is to it.  It's fun and I like having a "style" once I get out of the shower that doesn't involve a lot of work.
  • Catch - Maintenance.  The nice thing about having hair that takes forever to grow out is that I don't have to get it trimmed quite as often. But it still has to be done, and that's money and time.  Two things many of us are in short supply of.
  • Haircut Hunting - Thanks to the beauty that is Pinterest I've created an entire board dedicated to solving this dilemma.  I'm not sure how productive this is, but it is a lot fun, which is good enough for me.
  • Badass.  I've always seen women who rock a short do as total badasses.  A short hair cut takes some courage. There's an element of confidence that is just inherent in wearing your hair short and I covet that. 



































Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Tuesday Tunes - Running Edition

This is my current running playlist -  Full Disclosure - I haven't actually run in two weeks, thanks mostly to the nonstop rain we had which was followed immediately by heat and humidity.  Boo!  I'm hoping to get back out this week though.  This week is already much cooler than last week so I'm hopeful.  In the meantime, all of these songs are fun and keep me moving when I have to get back home.  I start off strong and then tend to lose momentum. But, the brilliance of running outside is, that if I run a mile from home I have to turn back and run another mile back, or at least walk it. This music helps keep me moving at a respectable pace and it makes the miles go by much faster than silence.  So, my playlist is kind of like my running buddy, it keeps me company, motivates me and makes sure I get back a good run in.  My personal trainer lives in my iPod.

Michael Franti - I'm Alive (Life Sounds Like)



Pink  -  True Love



Passion Pit - Little Secrets



Mackelmore & Ryan Lewis - Can't Hold Us 



Ellie Goulding - Anything Could Happen



Daft Punk - Get Lucky



White Lies - There Goes Our Love Again



Capital Cities - Safe & Sound



Robin Thicke - Blurred Lines



Grouplove  - Ways To Go



Enrique Iglesias - I Like It